In late September I met someone from Hinge. We talked for a few weeks but I had some initial reservations. He lives a bit further but he said he’s willing to meet me or meet me halfway if he connects with me in person. He’s 28 (I’m 32F) a lawyer, but lives at home for the time being. He also has limited dating experience. So these things got me hesitant to meet but I decided to go for it. After a few weeks of briefly talking on the app we met up for a date in early October. The date went really good and we extended the date and saw a movie and after the movie I kissed him (briefly). We went home and decided to see each other again.
We then dated for 3 weeks. But I was getting some doubts. I wasn’t like getting strong emotions and he wouldn’t be moving out for over a year or longer. I was beginning to feel like my emotions were holding me back and I wanted someone who had their living situation figured out more. He also told me he felt maybe he was wasting my time as he’s unsure how serious he wants to get because he really has limited dating experience. He also has a limited experience (he’s only slept with one girl prior to me). We talked in person on our last date and then decided to just take things date by date and if anything changes to openly communicate. We shared a passionate kiss then went home.
The next day my gut was telling me to end things. So the next day I sent the dreaded break up text. He took it maturely and we agreed that we can keep in contact and stay on each others social media. A few weeks go by and I started to regret my decision. I felt maybe I panicked and was overthinking. So I reached out to see how he was doing, and he asked if I’d like to hang out. We planned to meet and just hangout last Saturday. I planned to tell him that I wanted to try things again. When we met I told him how I was feeling and he said he’d like to also try things again and he admitted being bummed when I ended things.
We reconnected and he spent the night Tuesday. But for some reason, my feelings aren’t growing. It may be too early or too soon but again something is holding me back. We have a good time together. He always compliments me and says he’s attracted to me. I’m attracted to him but not wildly. When we kiss it doesn’t feel like I’m super into it but I enjoy it. Sex is still getting there because he’s inexperienced. I’m finding it hard to feel more. I’m not head over heels. If we don’t see each other I’m not like really missing him. I wonder why this is happening on my end?
Do I continue to explore this relationship and give it a chance for more feelings to develop or have I hit the most I can feel? It’s like sometimes I’m into him and sometimes I’m indifferent. It’s like he’s almost who I’m looking for but not quite. Am I just not actually attracted to him? He has physical features I do like though but I don’t look at him and want to rip his clothes off. But I do enjoy when we are intimate. I’m at a loss and feeling confused.
Any insight or advice or help is greatly appreciated.