I'' ll( 42F )bring this up with my specialist, however I'' ve been doing some journaling over the vacation break as well as understood that as a result of the characteristics in the last 10 years of my marital relationship, I am really delicate around being turned down after affection (absolutely physical/sexual, perhaps psychological affection as well).
I'' m presently seeing somebody (37M), and also points are new/early; we have actually been physical. He'' s refrained anything to offer a sign that he is turning down or deserting me, yet my previous concerns are making me really feel so distressed and also clingy. I despise this sensation! I simply intend to appreciate myself, him as well as what we presently have.
He'' s maintained the exact same speed of discussion as well as quite fast actions that we had preceding points obtained physical. Each time we'' ve been with each other, he'' s sent out a good message later. Whenever we go a little bit without seeing each other (because of child routines or work/travel), he asks when we can see each other once more and also is extremely clear regarding just how much he wishes to see me.
There was one extremely little stretch when I didn'' t listen to back from him. I signed in after a couple of days as well as he responded with a great factor (that I have no factor to not rely on) & when that was done interaction has actually taken place as regular. He'' s never ever damaged strategies to obtain with each other or anything like that.
Do you have any kind of functional suggestions (besides the typical maintain myself active with various other things) that can assist me conquer this? I put on'' t seem like it ' s a nervous add-on design fixation, I just seem like this after affection and also it'' s clear I ' m basing it on exactly how my partner treated me. Also when we are talking I seem like he'' s mosting likely to decline me, although I have no basis for this. I put on'' t believe I have body self-confidence problems + I think when he states exactly how brought in to me he is. It'' s simply a large fricking darken me that is triggering me to not take pleasure in points like I might be!
** I additionally wear'' t understand if this will certainly become a fling, FWB, connection, or what. Inevitably I desire LTR, yet put on'' t understand him all right yet to recognize if I desire one with him. I recognize we have some points alike, make each various other laugh, great sex-related chemistry as well as neither desires extra youngsters, haha! I'' m penalty with uncovering a lot more as we relocate along as well as I wear'' t believe I ' m nervous over how/if this will certainly proceed right into even more. Simply extra the stress and anxiety sensation like when'' s the various other footwear mosting likely to go down.
He'' s not done anything to offer a sign that he is declining or deserting me, yet my previous concerns are making me really feel so nervous as well as clingy. He'' s maintained up the very same speed of discussion as well as quite fast feedbacks that we had going in the past points obtained physical. I wear'' t really feel like it ' s a nervous add-on design fixation, I just really feel like this after affection as well as it'' s clear I ' m basing it on just how my partner treated me. I'' m penalty with finding a lot more as we relocate along as well as I put on'' t assume I ' m nervous over how/if this will certainly proceed right into even more.