Hi. I (45m) would certainly like some cumulative understanding regarding the following: When matches ask if I’m ENM or poly, I state no, since that isn’t my objective. I would certainly such as to become in a lasting virginal collaboration. Nevertheless, I’m not in a certain rush to be unique with somebody I’m still learning more about. My stopped working marital relationship was the outcome of a speedy courtship which’s not something I intend to repeat. So browsing that shift to exclusivity is still something I’m attempting to find out.
When inquired about these concerns I’m open as well as straight regarding where I believe we are, yet it isn’t typically a subject I’m anxious to raise prior to a 5th or 6th day, yet already I have actually come across circumstances where I inquire about being unique, as well as they react by claiming they believed we currently were since I would certainly informed them I had not been poly/ENM.
So do I require to establish assumptions in different ways? Does claiming I’m virginal suggest that I just date a single person each time? Do I require to have a “we are not unique yet” convo at the start, or is the typical presumption still that dating connections aren’t unique till both events plainly accept make that adjustment?
Many thanks ahead of time for your responses!