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Hello and welcome to /r/r4r! If you're confused about where you've landed, this is the gist of this place – “r4r” stands for “redditor for redditor” and is meant to be the de facto Reddit community for people meeting people for almost anything. That's fellow students, dating, playing music together, marriage prospects, penpals, playing board games, hookups, movie/tv-watching, sharing poetry, FWBs, celebrity gossip, video games, sports talk, meme-sharing, etc etc etc. There ARE rules, however, and everybody is expected to follow them.
For those that can't see the sidebar, visit https://old.reddit.com/r/r4r in your web browser to take a look. The rules are copied below and expanded on somewhat since the sidebar space is limited.
This subreddit is 18+. If you are under eighteen do not post, comment, or PM OPs. This rule is required of us by the admins for liability reasons. Lying about your age if you’re under 18 will result in a permanent ban.
No phone numbers or email addresses may be shared in public. No surveys, forms, or other information-harvesting activities. This rule previously also excluded usernames for any service of any kind, but the admins have lightened up on this definition recently so the rule has been updated to reflect this. We still recommend against sharing this information in public, as it will be much more difficult to connect scammers/catfish/etc. to their Reddit accounts when communicating via non-Reddit platforms.
Exchanges for money, goods, or services, are strictly prohibited. This includes, and is not limited to, any of the “sugar” lifestyle ads, offers for free trips, lessons, tutoring, webpage design, gaming, cam performances, etc. If you are doing something in exchange for something else, it will most likely fall in this rule. Please contact the modstaff for clarification or questions. Also note that if your activity feed contains items of this nature, you'll need to use a different account to post on r/r4r to avoid any potential conflicts of interest or confusion about the nature of your posting.
Sexism, racism, homophobia/transphobia, ad hominem posts, or rudeness will not be tolerated. Keep it civil and respectful.
No SPAM is allowed. SPAM includes advertising of any kind other than a personal ad. You are allowed to post to the subreddit once, and only once, per 24-hour period. This includes deleted and resubmitted posts for any reason other than automod removal upon initial posting (not edits). This is to prevent users from trying to game the algorithm Reddit uses to stick on the front page of the subreddit. First frequency offense will earn a minimum 24-hour ban, additional offenses will earn longer bans.
If you know your post contains NSFW or suggestive language (you know when it does), then please tag it as such. This rule is a courtesy rule, because although the subreddit is 18+, we are not an explicit subreddit (like r/gonewild, etc). You have the option once your post is submitted to tag as NSFW, if you know it contains NSFW material (pictures or text) and can't tag, PM the modstaff and we can tag for you. Anything sexually suggestive falls in this category. Adding “NSFW” to your title or post body will also engage automatic tagging. Conversely, if the bot auto-tags your post based on keywords and it is not unsafe for work, you may remove the tag yourself without contacting the mod team.
If you have an issue on the subreddit, use the report button or contact the moderators. This includes not leaving comments on posts where you see a problem. Preventing defamation is the biggest driver for this rule.
If you do not agree with a post, ignore it and move on. r/r4r isn't a discussion forum (except for META posts) and expressing disagreement doesn't add value to anything on this subreddit. Everyone is entitled to their preferences and you don't have to share your own in public if it's not your post.
No posting on behalf of another without sending proof of consent to the mods first. Because this situation is rather unusual, the mods will often require person verification of the person being posted on behalf of.
Accounts must have 10+ karma and be 48+ hours old to participate. Post titles must include the author's true, exact age at the time of posting. Post titles must include at least the author’s time zone, but ideally also a geographic location no less specific than country. Adding “/Anywhere” or “/Online” after your location is acceptable to indicate to readers that you’re seeking outside your area. Content must be primarily English. These requirements work together to reduce SPAM and catfishing.
The titles of submissions must be properly formatted or they will be deleted. The format for post titles is:
“r4r” denotes your gender and preference.
21 [M4F] Arkansas – Looking for a friend
26 [F4R] Toronto/Anywhere – I want a gamer buddy and somebody to chat with
30/29 [FM4FM] Sydney, Australia – Married couple looking for roleplay with another married couple.
Tag Meaning M Male F Female T Transgender R Redditor / All Rule 11
Low effort posts including, but are not limited to, posts with no body will be removed at moderator discretion. Posts must contain 100+ words, 2 conversation starters, and distinguishing info about the author (links and meta about the post itself don't count). This rule was created in response to, and has been tuned specifically based on, community feedback from readers who want to get the feel for who an OP is as a person before contacting them. Attempts to “fill out” a post with non-distinguishing info will result in temporary bans.
No advertising groups or communities. Some of them aren't always appropriate, and sometimes they're used to farm usernames. Posts whose purpose is to “build” a group or community also fall under this rule. Check out our official R4R Discord Server if you're interested in a group conversation.
Moderators reserve the right to remove posts and/or ban users upon their discretion
If you have any questions, feel free to reach out via modmail.