Hi everybody, trying to find your understanding.
I am 30F living in NYC operating in technology. I enter into the workplace 2-3 days a week. My other half is 34M as well as presently staying in a smaller sized city concerning 3 hrs away. We have actually been living independently for 1+ years as well as we check out each various other every weekend break. It'' s exercised since we are high up in our work.
After months of interviewing my spouse obtained a brand-new task deal in one more state and also is mosting likely to seek it. Understanding this, as well as under his recommendations, I discussed a remote bundle with my firm and also currently practically can relocate throughout the United States with him.
Nevertheless in the previous couple of weeks it has actually come to be extremely clear to me that I put on'' t intend to leave NYC. in any way. I am repelled by the concept of following my hubby after years of constructing an effective job as well as network in the city, in addition to good friends as well as coworkers in the workplace. It likewise indicates an end to my life as a '' effective female' ' in the city as well as currently a lady with assumptions to function from residence, begin a family members, stay up to date with household chores. and so on. all points that make me really feel so clinically depressed as well as alone.
My spouse is an excellent man today is perplexed by my stream of consciousness, as well as states I am not prioritizing our partnership. I understand he'' s appropriate yet it seems like I am providing myself up for him, and also I put on'' t understand if I ' m happy to do it
. I wish to select myself. TL: DR: After years of living individually my other half obtained a brand-new task and also desires me to follow him [job from another location, begin a family members, be a better half I presume] It will certainly trigger me to leave my life as I recognize it, as well as I put on'' t intend to.
My spouse is 34M and also presently living in a smaller sized city regarding 3 hrs away. In the previous couple of weeks it has actually ended up being extremely clear to me that I put on'' t desire to leave NYC. I am repelled by the suggestion of following my partner after years of constructing an effective occupation and also network in the city, as well as close friends as well as associates in the workplace. It likewise implies an end to my life as a '' effective lady' ' in the city as well as currently a female with assumptions to function from residence, begin a household, maintain up with household chores.