I (20M) am not exactly sure if I’m regulating my gf (20F) or merely just establishing limits.
Some history information: We’ve been dating for a little over a year currently as well as are both in university. Partnership has actually been excellent.
Right here are some points that make me unpleasant as well as I’ve informed her not to do:
no approving beverages from arbitrary people at bars no blacking out/excessive alcohol consumption (she’s had a problem with this in the past and also it makes me stressed for her security when she’s out at bars) no kissing various other ladies (she’s not bi yet I still do not like it) no individual buddy (she has a couple of man pals that she’s rather close with as well as I have definitely no problem keeping that, yet if she were to have an individual that was actually her buddy I would certainly be a little uneasy)
Am I simply insecure and also managing, or are these affordable points?
One more point I’m kinda concerned regarding is the truth that she hasn’t actually informed me to refrain anything in the past. It’s a little one sided because feeling. To be reasonable however, I have not actually provided her a factor to establish borders like these for me. Omitting the last bullet factor regarding man close friends, all the various other points she has actually carried out in the past.
As well as to be clear, she’s had no concern with valuing me and also my limits and also she hasn’t done any one of the important things I’ve informed her not to.
TLDR; I do not allow my gf obtain blackout intoxicated, kiss various other ladies, approve beverages from men at bench, or have a person friend. Is this also managing of me?