For starters, I’m a guy! 28.
I have literaly been on dating apps for 4 years and in those 4 years I had the privillage of having the oppertunity to connect with someone a total of 0. Wemon have options on dating apps, men don’t. Unless you’re so attractive you litteraly have nothing to do except existing. The shear mass of oppertunity you girls get via dating apps in comparisson with ours is widely underastimated. I’m a great guy looking to settle for quite some time, creative, kind, romantic, musical and I feel I have so much to offer. But when I use dating apps I feel like I’ll never be enough for anyone!
The lengts a “good” guy has to go to to connect with someone is utterly ridiculous. The amount of matches for a guy is low. Creating a smartly crafted text is like applying for a job your propably always unqualified for, because nothing seems to peak intrest enough that makes it look like you might be the right candidate. Gooing on dates feels like deathrow. Because 20%ghosts you once you ask the question, 30%ghost you the day of the date itself and 40% never shows up at the date you planned, which took quite some time to set up.
It’s believed that men don’t cry. But thats when I feel I could realy shatter in tears! It realy destroys me when you put so much time and effort into something and the oppisite sex doesn’t even find the courage to show up.
And you know what the worst part is? You have to do it all over again! Not once, not twice but hundreds of times before you eventualy meet someone you could start a relationship with. Metaforicly speaking hanging myself comes to mind some times.
What do I have to be? Iron man?
I like to hear your take on this? Is there something I’m completly missing? Is the illusion you girls are looking for a great guy an illusion? Or is it all the matter about looks? I litteraly don’t know what to think anymore.