Everyone has a past, and also I’m entirely all right keeping that. My companions past sex-related experiences have actually never ever troubled me, in addition to one since it was with a customer of his that who still makes use of the solutions they satisfied whereby needs him to see her once in awhile. She’s much older than me as well as extremely well-off, he’s made certain to state exactly how stunning her home/bedroom were, so it’s challenging for me to face that. Aside from that, absolutely nothing he’s ever before informed me has actually made me really feel troubled or envious. Yet lately when I raise points I might intend to perform in the bed room, he promptly reacts with “Oh, I’ve done that previously. It’s respectable so we can do it if you wish to.” As well as it’s troubling me. A LOT.
Currently, I obtain it, it’s all-natural to connect specific points to previous experiences as well as I’m not distressed concerning that. What’s distressing is that in the minute I am thinking of us as well as just how much enjoyable something can be, as well as he quickly reveals me that he’s thinking of just how much enjoyable he’s currently had, as well as it makes me seem like my tips simply aren’t extremely interesting. Such as this early morning, I was discussing mounting a post when we relocate as I’ve taken post dance courses in the past as well as discover it to be enjoyable. He right away stated “I suggest, it would not be the very first time Ive seen it in any way, however go all out if you intend to.” Like??? Was that required??? Especially considering I have actually formerly listened to every information of the experience he was describing ??? It’s simply truly moistening any kind of exhilaration I might potentially have.
Just how do I bring this as much as him without making him really feel assaulted, or like I’m simply envious? The reality is that I’m delighted he had experiences prior to me, I simply do not intend to need to read about them when we’re meant to be concentrated on us. We’ve been with each other concerning 6 months and also this isn’t a dealbreaker for me, I enjoy him, as well as I intend to manage this as logically as feasible.
TLDR: My guy maintains raising his past thoroughly when I recommend brand-new points to attempt in bed. Exactly how can I obtain him recognize exactly how I’m really feeling without coming off as combative or envious?
note: I likewise published this in r/relationship _ suggestions.
Just how do I obtain my (22f) guy (31m) to comprehend that bringing up his previous sex-related experiences is messing up particular minutes for me? My companions past sex-related experiences have actually never ever troubled me, apart from one since it was with a customer of his that who still makes use of the solutions they satisfied via which needs him to see her every so usually. Currently, I obtain it, it’s all-natural to connect particular points to previous experiences as well as I’m not disturbed concerning that.